“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church,because we are members of his body. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church. However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.” Ephesians 5:25-33.
What does it mean to love your wife as Christ loved the Church? How do we go about doing it?
As I write, these questions and this section of the of Ephesians 5 seem increasingly pressing and pertinent. The reason for this is simple. I’m getting married on Oct 19th and as such by 2pm that afternoon I become Lauren’s husband and this command will apply directly to me.
In effect verse 25-26 will read, “Andrew, love Lauren, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish.”
If you are married, or soon to be married stick your names into verse 25 and read the passage again. This verse carries a stunning weight when personalised. The command to love your wife as Christ loved the Church is staggering both in terms of it’s privilege and responsibility.
Over my next few posts I’m going to be looking at exactly how Christ loves His bride, and how we should go about mirroring Him as we love our brides.
We will consider leadership, servanthood, intercession, sacrifice, provision, protection, faithfulness, patience, and pursuit. If you can think of anything else that you’d like me to cover drop me a comment and I’ll add it in.
Yours in Christ
Soli Deo Gloria.